David is good with people and always has been. He’s a salesman, so his people skills are tools of the trade for him. He’s confident, attractive and successful, and has no problem approaching beautiful women and chatting to them. He’s never been…
cowed by groups of women or mixed groups and can talk to anyone about anything. He never went home after a night out without a phone number. While all of this sounds good, he had a problem he just couldn’t seem to shake – nine out of ten women wouldn’t answer or return his calls, and those who did wouldn’t agree to dates.
David heard about Kamalifestyles on the radio and decided to go to one on one dating coaching, since he didn’t think he needed help with anything else. We discussed his problem and went through things like approach and body language. He was doing more or less what we advised, but he picked up a couple of tips and realised that he could be even more successful.
I spent some time with David explaining how he can convert phone numbers into dates using text messaging. Women may be afraid to answer a call the next day because they don’t want to experience social awkwardness, or the timing of the call’s simply off. They could be in a non-receptive mood, and over time, a man they met loses value and emotional momentum. Women also tend to analyse one’s motives over time and someone who readily gave out her number might start wondering if she did the right thing, or she might wonder why someone who doesn’t know her wants to take her out.
Making a strong impression when meeting a woman is a good antidote to this, but there are bridges one can use to counteract it too. David had a tendency to call women after a few days. If he met someone on Friday night, he wouldn’t contact her before Monday or Tuesday, losing the attraction and momentum he’d built up. He should have re-initiated contact within 24 hours or, if it couldn’t be helped, no later than 48 hours after meeting. Using text messaging instead of a phone call is an ideal way to contact someone without putting any pressure on her.
David and I discussed the importance of recreating part of the conversation they had when they met, like making a joke about something they were laughing about the night before. Ideally, he should make sure his number is stored on her phone when he leaves the conversation, but in case it’s not, the first text should always be signed with his name. This eliminates the awkwardness of having to explain who he is.
I showed David how to increase the frequency and intensity of texts and how to build attraction again. Once this has been established, his prospective date must be made more comfortable before he invites her out in a light-hearted way to avoid putting too much pressure on her. We talked about damage control and what to do if he felt he’d made a mistake, since it’s easy to look needy by too many or overly long texts.
By Friday of that week, David had a date. The coaching and the knowledge he gained through it helped him immensely. After going out with a few women, he’s started dating Stephanie and things are getting serious. Kamalifestyles coaching made it easy for him to find love and he’s not lonely and frustrated anymore. David’s success is proof that turning phone numbers into dates can be achieved easily if you use the right methods.
David Brooks, 26, Salesman, Co. Kilkenny
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