Storytelling To Fascinate Women

Tim started dating again after being in a relationship for ten years. He’s confident, not easily intimidated and successful. He’s good looking, dresses well and leads an interesting, happy life. Every time he approached a woman he found attractive…

He’d do well until they really started chatting. Before long, she’d be fidgeting, looking over his shoulder and sneaking glimpses at her watch. He saw that women became bored and distracted easily when he started talking, but no matter how hard he tried, he couldn’t work out why.

When Tim first approached me for help, he was concerned that the problem lay with being out of practise – he’d been out of the dating scene for a long time and he didn’t know how much things had changed. Being in his early fifties, he was worried that his age had something to do with it too. We went through his technique systematically and I gave him a couple of hints about where he was going wrong. Although there were one or two things he could be doing better, his main problem was that his story telling method was sub-par.

Story telling is a great tool Tim could use to show a woman that he has higher value than other men do. He has to keep her attention by entertaining her, starting with a good hook line to interest her in what he has to say.

It’s important to leave threads open to encourage questions and to look for input in safe ways that won’t derail your whole story. Telling a story about something that happened on an overseas trip gives the listener the opportunity to ask why he was visiting a different country. A simple question with a ‘yes’ or ‘no’ answer is a safe way to draw someone in without giving her a chance to change the topic.

Women are emotional and Tim wasn’t as enthusiastic and passionate about his topics as he should have been. He needed to express emotion to get the woman he’s talking to emotionally involved in his story. Obviously, telling a story he’s not interested in himself is of no use. In fact, he was talking about things just because the woman he was talking to was interested and this made him seem weak and needy.

The beauty of effective story telling is that Tim can use the story to tell her about his health, show her his sense of humour, and talk about wealth, status, his leadership abilities and how strong and confident he is without bragging. No one likes someone who’s conceited, but slipping details into a story in an offhand way lets her know about him and his lifestyle in a more subtle fashion.

Tim learned that the ability to tell a good story doesn’t only come in handy when meeting women. He’s making friends more easily and his social life is richer and busier than ever before. Being an entertaining, engaging speaker has led to more invitations to dinners and evenings out with friends. On a professional level, his relationship with clients and contractors has become far more amiable.

Tim’s approach to women changed. Small changes in his behaviour led to enormous changes in how successful he is with women. He’s not ready to start a serious relationship yet, but goes out on a date at least once or twice a week now. He no longer has problems attracting women that he finds attractive. Since he’s honest with them from the start, they know what he wants from them and it makes life much less complicated.

Tim Dunbar, 53, Architect, Co. Meath

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