When learning how to pick up girls, the habits and behavior you unlearn are as important as the new skills you learn. If you make any of the five mistakes discussed, change your behavior immediately to stop defeating yourself…
1. Most men only go to bars and clubs to meet women
People go to bars and clubs to socialist. While this puts women in the right mindset, it doesn’t necessarily mean that they area any easier to approach. In fact, loud music makes it more difficult to strike up a conversation. There are scores of other places to meet women – including shopping malls, book stores, and coffee shops. Get out there and practice approaching women in different setting.
2. Most men don’t know what women are looking for
Most men think women are impressed by how they dress or by the pickup lines they use. This is not the case at all. What is far more important is how you present yourself – your body language, posture, the timbre of your voice, whether you make and maintain eye contact, and what you say after you approach them.
3. Most men don’t have the right mindset
Many men go out thinking that they’ll fail. Those who know how to pick up girls understand how your inner game and mindset affect your interaction with other people. If you don’t believe you’re good enough to get a girl to go home with you, why should she believe any different? Change the way you think about yourself, learn how to value your strengths and work on your weaknesses.
4. Most men aren’t Alpha Males
An Alpha Male is a leader among men. He’s not jealous, needy or desperate. In fact, other men look up to him. Alpha male traits include:
- Displaying confidence and dominance
- Doesn’t need the approval of others
- Knows how to listen
- Has a great sense of humor and is not too insecure to laugh at himself. However, he is not a clown
- Knows how to deal with failure and move on
Alpha males do not exert dominance by being jerks. Confident men don’t need to put others down to make themselves look good and understand that making others feel good about themselves is a skill.
5. Most men don’t have the courage to change
Change takes guts. No one’s perfect and knowing what you need to change about yourself and your behavior is an important part of growing as a person. How to pick up girls depends more on social and interpersonal skills than money, social status, or good looks. All of these skills can be learned from scratch or improved and, while you can do this on your own, asking for help from a qualified dating coach will accelerate the learning process. Kama Lifestyles dating courses are presented by experienced coaches and the course content was developed by professionals with backgrounds in sociology and psychology. Why not contact a consultant for a free consultation? It could change your life.
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